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Alice, thank you so much for your advice. This issue has been going on for a while and I have tried every method that I could conjure up. To answer your question, I am confused about whether or not I am interested in a future relationship. It is definitely a possibility, however, if i meet the right woman I do not want to give her hope. I have explained to her my need for time, freedom, and life experience. She accepts my request but never seems to keep the same mindset about it. One day she wants to be friends. The next friends with benefits. A week later, its either she dates me or cant stand to be around me because it hurts her to see me want to date other women. Ive tried to explain to her how i feel and how we are at different points in our lives but she refuses to accept it. Its true that age is just a number, and our personalities are compatable, but our experience is far different. I have told her repeatidly not to wait for me. And when she says she cant talk to me because of the pain, I accept her decision and tell her i'll alway be there for her, and eventually she comes back and the cycle begins again. I really love her as a friend, but thats all i want right now. But she cant stand to be just friends even though we have been friends for the past four years. I do think you're right however about her falling in love with me while i was still underage. I just dont want this cycle to continue for the rest of my life. She truely does mean a lot to me and we help each other with more than just our sexual preference. I just dont want to lose one of my best friends. And i apologize that this situation is so complex. haha. I don't expect you to have "the" answer but its nice to have someone else to ask advice besides the woman who i can talk to about anything but this.
Thanks again,
Court
If you want the cycle to end, you might just have to give up a good friend. I know that it's a hard thing to even think about, but if you want to give her a chance to fall in love with someone else, you might have to cut all ties with her.
She seems to be between a rock and a hard place, as do you.
But as I thought Julia Nunes' lyrics said "we've only got a friend to loose, it sucks it had to be with you."
Hope that helps
Best of luck
-Alice
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