I have a bit of a potential problem that's been absolutely driving me insane lately. Both my boyfriend and I (we're both 18) are going to the same college next year, and he's trying to think of ways to pay for college. He and his mom don't have the best financial situation by the way... The thing is that he's mentioned very briefly a few times in the past that he's thought of maybe going in to porn or stripping to help pay for college. I personally don't believe that either of these are "immoral", but I really don't like the idea of him going in to either one, and I've told him that before. I'm worried about him, but I'm more worried about how that would affect our relationship. I love him very much, and he really loves me too, and this is about the only real potential danger to our relationship that I can see. I should stress that we never really talk about this at all, and when it comes up it's very brief. I might be making sound bigger than it is at the moment just because I've been thinking about it so much. I guess you could say that I'm in a perpetual cycle of "what if...". He's also not in the mind set of "I'm definitely going to do this", he's also considering other things. I'm also not the type of guy who tells people what to do. I'm the type who goes with the flow. I've even told him that I really don't want him to do either one, but only he can make that decision. I'm so afraid of this one thing ruining something that is so good. What do I do?

You're so very smart for questioning things. Maybe not EVERYTHING should be questioned, but things like this are very scary, and confusing. Asking for help was a good idea. 
The real question is, "Does he really want to do this? Or is he pinned against the ropes?" so to speak. I think the best thing you could do for your boy is to help him search for a way to find an aid in this financial situation.
This is a really hard posisition to be in, for both you and your boyfriend. Look for other ways, and tell him how you feel. 

Other than that, I don't know what else I can tell you. Write back if you need more.

Good luck!

-Alice

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