Question: Ok, I started going out with this girl in the beginning of my freshman year when I didn't really know who I was or anything and then I started falling for her. Then in like June I was having doubts again and broke it off with her, then things got really rocky. She said she didn't want to be my friend and everything and it totally crushed me. Then we got back together and she dumped me...over and over again...and I don't know what to do. She told me that she still loves me, but she wanted someone else, but it seems like everytime we're together we get all cuddly and smoochie again. I love her and love spending time with her, but I can't get over her. There's just something inside of me telling me I'll never have what we had before and it scares me. Should I just give up loving her and look for a new love that seems nonexistant or what?

How do you know if you truely love someone?

The answer is simple. If you care about their happiness more than your own.

In most people's opinion, you should never completely give up on loving someone, but if you care about their happiness more than your own, you have to realize you are not making them happy.  You must let them search for what makes them happy, then be happy for them. Yes, I know, it may seem hard to be happy because the one you love loves someone else, but just remember, what's meant to be will always find a way. Who knows, maybe if you let your partner go, they will 'discover' themselves, and come back to you with open arms and an open heart.

Judging by the 'I love you, but i want someone else' statement, it may sound like she has some commitment issues. If you and your partner are having problems about figuring out what you want, and/or need in this relationship, then you may want to try this exercise:

First, sit down with your partner. Start off by telling them how you feel; tell them everything. Tell them the good and the bad. Then, let them tell you how they feel. Make sure you are both blunt, and to the point. Second, tell your partner three [or more] specific things you want, and three [or more] specific things you need from this relationship. Then ask your partner to return the favor by telling you three [or rmore] specific wants and three [or more] specific needs. Hopefully this, can get you on the right track.

Please dont judge me by my face,
by my religion or my race.
Please dont laugh at what I wear,
or how I look or do my hair.
Please look a little deeper,
way down deep inside.
And although you may not see it,
I have a lot to hide.
Behind my clothes the secrets lie,
behind my smile, I softly cry.
Please look a little deeper,
and maybe you will see.
The lonely little girl,
that lives inside of me.
Please listen carefully to her,
she'll show that she is insecure
Please try to be a friend to her,
and show her that you care.
Please just get to know her,
and maybe you will see.
That if you just look deep enough,
you'll find the real me.

hurting every second of each day crying myself to sleep, thinking about why I'm living my life each day in pain, constintly wondering if im gonna live or die each day, feeling my soul being ripped out of my bodyfeeling constint pain in my heart