Ok so there is this girl that I like, alot. She is out at school and everything... I'm not. She doesnt know I'm lesbian either but I think she got the hint cause I was checkin her out when we were in detention together and she caught me. But do I tell her I like her? Because I mean I'm not out, and I don't plan to come out anytime soon and I don't want her to have to hide or whatever just cause nobody knows bout me. What should I do?

I think that if you really like this girl, you should go for it. Don't let your boundries contain you. You need to break the mold, bust out of this circle. Your "closet" shouldn't contain you forever. I can respect you for not coming out yet. High school is scary, and people can be cruel, but like I said before, if you really like this girl...Let her know how you feel. If you're afraid that things won't work out, start off by being friends. Things will work themselves out, once you get them started. You can't sit around and do nothing. Get the ball rolling.

-Alice 

I really don't know what to do....

I am Bi and I've had the same boyfriend for almost two years...but in that amount of time I realized that I was bi. I made this realization through my best friend. I would hang out with her and we would be sitting on the couch watching TV and I would be thinking to myself how hot she looked in her tanktop...and what would happen if we made out. While I had a boyfriend. My boyfriend knows now that I am Bi and he is ok with me "experimenting" with other girls like me. At the beginning of this year my best friend told me she was a Lesbian which at the time got me REALLY excited. I like her alot, and I've had on going fantasies of her...and I even told her once I wanted to kiss her...the thing is she said that I'm just too close a friend, and it's not worth the "risk." What do I do...? Give up and worry about just my boyfriend or keep entertaining these thoughts in my head secretly...or not so secretly?

When I got into a relationship with my best friend, we were both very scared that things wouldn't work out, and we would hate each other, or rather, I'd hate them. At first, I was sore about the subject because I love them. Of course, after a while, I realized it was for the better. We're only teenagers, and things have to roll at their own pace and work themselves out. If she's really a good friend, then you shouldn't worry about you two not being friends anymore. Maybe she doesn't feel the same way about you...ask her if she does. And if she does, tell her that you want to try it out, no strings attached. If things work, then let them be, if they don't, patch your friendship.

If you don't think that it's possible for any of this to happen, especially the friendship thing, then I'd say stick with your boyfriend if you truely care about him, if you don't, don't stay in a relationship that you're going to be untrue to.

Hope this helps.

-Alice.

ok so here is the deal. Me and my ex are good friends we talk a couple of days when she isnt swampt with school work. she randomly sends me texts messages on my cell like just wanted to say good morrning and have a good day. and some times when she ims me its hey sweety and such today she asked about my day and i told her i had a head acke so she said i would kiss it but its kind of hard to do through the comp. i was joking and made a flirty comment and she responed with a smile with its tounge out. now we have both admited we had feelings for each other before. but we both were seeing some one else. but now i am not and i am not sure if she is. i dont want her to feel cornerd or anythng cause she is younger then me but she is the only thing i think of. listening to music and if i could go do it all over agian i would if it ment one more night in her arms and to see her smile. but i dont know if she still feels the same. i dont want to be making something out of nothing. do you have any sugestions on what to do?

Ask her how she feels. Just because she's younger than you, doesn't mean that she's going to feel cornered. Allow her to make the choices for now. Don't pressure, just ask her questions, and give her time to answer and toss the question around for awhile. If she isn't ready now, wait a while, ask her later. Time is key. Remember that, just be sure to stay in contact with her.

 -Alice

Ok its been three to four years since i have dated a guy and about five years since ive been out, but recently this guy Oscar has kinda got my attention he is a great guy everything i had said i wanted if i ever got with a guy but i am so uncomfortable being with a guy period. So its been about a week since we started dating and every time we get some what close all i can do is think of my ex girlfriend. What should i do i feel so stupid and so confused i havent felt like this since i first came out five years ago?

Don't feel dumb, changing from being with one gender to the next can be scary. If you meet the right person [guy in your case], it will sail more smoothly than this seems to be going. If you're uncomfortable and don't like the situation, end it. Do not stay in a relationship you're not happy with. Don't drag Oscar along, it's not fair to either of you.    Remember, we're young. Being scared and confused is normal. It happens to the best of us. Break it off with him for now. Tell him the truth, tell him you're confused, tell him you don't want to be in a relationship you're not comfortable in. If you feel this way, let him know that you might try it out if you become more comfortable.

If you need DIFFERENT advice, write again.

-Alice

So, I am very confused about my gender. I was born female, but I don't really consider gender very important. When needed, I usually identify as female. But I really hate my female reproductive organs. If I could, I'd get rid of everything except my breast. For some reason, I usually don't mind those too much. I was wondering if it is possible to have surgery to become agender? I would definately consider that very seriously. But I can't seem to find much information. The closest I've found was information for FTM; I assume that theoretically one could just stop in the middle, but what health complications would that cause?

I don't really know what to say to this. If you REALLY want advice on the subject, click on USERS and look at the FtMs. I'm POSITIVE some of them will have more information.    You can also take Testosterone. You take T before you get top surgery, in the case of FtMs.
Look up MaxwellxMurders, he knows quite a bit about the subject. Talk to him, ask him some questions, he might be able to help you.

-Alice