when i was little i used to say i wanted to be a boy cuz i thought it would be easier... and i dismissed those thoughts... but lately they cameback in full force... i am a girl but i keep getting these feelings that i want to be a guy..what do i do?!? i have a boyfriend who is bi and i told him i felt this way. he said that he doesn;t want me to change but i don't know i'm so confused. do i stay a gurl or do i go with what i feel and be a guy... and if i do change how do i tell everyone?!?

I don't really have any experience in this, but if I were in your position, I would have a hard time not being true to myself. I would say be true to yourself as well, and chances are, the people who love you for who you are will accept it in time.

Hope that helped a little. :/

I say make yourself happy.... if you're not happy then you can't make anyone else happy and no one else can make you happy. If you are transgender that's ok. If he's not ok with that... then that is something he needs to get over. If he truely loves you... the person that you are... then he'll work with you to make your happy.

Hey. I am currently in the same situation. I used to dismiss these feelings when I was younger. As of now I still don't know what the hell I'm going to do. But, I will be taking each day at a time to figure out what I really want. I know that inside I am male, there's no denying that. How the people around me still don't see it..whatever. You have to make the decision and only you. If it's what would make you a happier person then go for it. If you're completely unsure how to handle everything, I'd wait it out like I'm doing. Maybe in a couple of years I'll consider the total makeover. Right now, I don't think it would be good for me. Consider your options.


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I've found in my own gender identity struggle that it's helpful to make a distinction between sex and gender. This separation allowed me to explore a bit more in depth the social and personal reasons behind my feeling. Sex is what you are biologically; what you were born as, which can range from male, to intersex (which in itself is a huge spectrum), to female [as a side note what is biologically male and female is also not that clear considering its possible to be an xy female or an xx male]. Gender is a social construct. Traits that are stereotypically masculine assigned to males and traits that are stereotypically feminine are assigned to females. Once this is done people are pigeonholed into this category or that. Because gender is a social construct its easier to manipulate. I would suggest manipulating your gender and seeing how you feel about that before you try anything else. Which would mean if you are considered a female, wear guys clothes, acting like a guy, ect. There's also ways to make yourself look more masculine without taking hormones: binders to hide breasts, fake hair for beards, ect. If you find this comfortable you can then ask: Is my gender male, or do I feel like my sex doesn't match my gender, which is possible too. For myself I've found that I'm satisfied as a biological male, but I don't fit in the gender binary, which is why I call myself genderqueer.

hey,
I have also been in a similar situation. I will not try to say exactly why you feel the way you do because I don't know. In my own personal experience though, I found that I didn't actually want to be a boy so much as I wanted to be free from being a girl who who hung out with guys and was attracted to girls. Growing up I was made to feel akward by my female peers because I preferred to hang out with guys and watch the girls rather than be part of their group. As I entered a new school though I gained female friends and found myself being less persecuted but I realized that I liked girls and I knew that the general standpoint at my catholic school was that that was bad. I ended up silently hating myself for years until I found solace in my chosen family. Before I found my chosen family though I wanted so badly to be a guy or for at least people to think I was a guy. I started wearing baggy clothing and talking and acting like a guy. Some of the people at my school, who didn't know me well, actually thought I was a guy. It took me what felt liek a millenium before I realized that I wanted to be a girl, I just wanted an escape from the persecution I had previously lived with.
Now, like I said earlier, I am not sayign that this is your situation, you may want to be a guy for the rest of your life. Considering you have a boyfriend this may be more likely for you but I, being bisexual, also went through a couple of boys before I realized that I'm female preferrential and really had no interest in a relationship with a guy but just found them physically attractive.
Good luck.