So I figure we have the "Your coming out Experience" thread so I decided to make one for those of us who haven't exactly come out yet. Tell your hardships and things that point to it, how obvious it can be at sometimes and how much it hurts to not be able to come out.

I'll start?

So when I was younger there were many hints that showed me as a boy, not a girl. I ran around with my shirt off, swam in shorts, played tackle football and baseball. I played with toy cars and loved action shows like Walker Texas Ranger (<333). I told my friends I was a guy, but my penis had been cut off at birth because my parents wanted a girl. When they finally did have my younger brother I was super jealous. I was hurt when my dad said "Is it that big of a deal that I Want a son?" I wear guys clothes and hang out with mostly guys. I do guy things and I always feel masculine when I'm with my "girl" friends and their boyfriends aren't around. I feel like its my job. Being called a girl makes me feel less equal (no offense, you're not at all less equal than guys. Pro-Womans Rights KTHX!)

I want to come out. It hurts to be in the closet, but my selflessness keeps me from telling everyone. I feel like it would screw up the flow of life in school and at home. Three of my real life friends know at school and that's it. I can trust them with my life. They have been helpful, but still.

The principal even seems supportive saying a trans could use whatever bathroom they felt more comfortable in but that just sounds like a dangerous situation there.

Maybe if I went to another school I'd come out, but not in my school.

YOUR TURN! =D

Are you out to your teachers at all? It's cool that your principal is supportive of you. That is a huge bonus for you.

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Are you out to your teachers at all? It's cool that your principal is supportive of you. That is a huge bonus for you.


No I'm not. The principal doesnt even know. We just asked her what would happen if there was a trans in our school, what would happen and she said if they were to come out to tell her first so they know whats going on and that way they could use the appropriate bathroom and like they could use the appropriate measures to keep them safe.

Thats what my childhood was like too. i was a real tomboy and I allways hung around with my brother and his friends playing typical boys games. lol I always hated wearing dresses because i wanted to fit in with the guys. I don't feel paticularly masculine, but i don't feel very feminine eather. I think I'm somewhere in the middle.
And I don't know I've always felt and still feel very protectiv towards my friends. Is that masculine? Dunno well anyway MaxwellxMurders I think you are very lucky to have such good friends who you can trust you life with.
I have actually had some funny situations with me not being out, like the other day while I was chatting to a friend she asked me if i have ever had a boyfriend before and when i answered no she seemed surprised and said: "thats strange, your such a nice girl. Why don't you have a boyfriend?" lol I just shrugged and said thats just the way it is. I wunder if she will ever figure it out on her own. Or my brother keeps talking about what my dad will do when I bring my first boyfriend home.
Their are all in for a big surprise ;D

Ya I haven't exactly came out to my family either. I have told my cousin and a few of my closest friends, that are actually lesbians them selves. But I think I want to wait till I get my own place to tell my mom and sisters. I think it will be easier to tell them if I had my own place to go back to, instead of my room. The thing is I don't know how they will react, that's what scares me, I'm pretty sure that they know I like girls, because they have asked me if I was a lesbian, but every time they asked I've said no. I don't think my mom would take it all that well, because she always has rude little comments about gays and lesbians. But other than her and some of my very religious family, all the others Could care less like my dad, my sisters, and some of my cousins. But I am gettin tired of sneakin around my mom's back and goin to lesbian clubs, the other day she almost caught me. I just want to tell her the truth, but I think she will try and tell me that I'm just confused and I'm not really a lesbian, and she won't let me go out with my friends, even though I'm 18, she'll say I live under her roof, so I have to do what she says. But I don't know what to do, if I should just tell her, or wait till I move out, which will be later this summer, I just don't know.

Well if your moving out soon, wouldn't it be easier for you and your family to wait till your out of the house before coming out?
I know its frustrating not being able to tell your mom, but at least you have cousins and friends you can talk about it with.