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Re:In love with best friend 2007/09/06 09:49 Karma: 0  
I'm yet another person who's been in the same situation many times before. I've liked so many of my friends but I've only really loved one, my best friend through primary school and some of high school.
She was most definitely straight and I never told her how I felt. I used to have to sleep in the same bed as her when we'd have sleepovers and we used to do everything together. Then, in high school, we had a huge fight and never became as close as we once were. We weren't even talking for years and I guess it took her ages to stop hating me. In the time we weren't talking, I was a mess. I even had to change schools because I couldn't stand her yelling at me and flipping me off most every day. I got over it and I got over her in that way eventually and I moved back to my old school. We started talking again and we were sort of friends but it was uncomfortable. She dropped out of school last year and I haven't seen her since. She never found out how I felt but she did know I was gay because I told her I had a girlfriend and she took that well. I actually dislike her a lot now because she's a complete loser but when I look back on what I had to endure every day, all those suppressed emotions, it makes me feel great to have a girlfriend now that I can say 'I love you' to and to have someone that loves me back.
All the advice I can offer you is to do what you feel comfortable with. If you're scared to tell her, give it a bit of time and keep your eyes open. If she gives an obvious hint, then start off by saying that you're gay. She may or may not respond in the way that you want her to but if she's really such a great friend, then you've got nothing to lose. Just don't let it slip through your fingers if she infact does feel that way about you.
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Re:In love with best friend 2007/10/20 18:02 Karma: 0  
I was in the same situation...except mine was a little more complicated.
My best friend is les and I'm bi. She's never been in a gay relationship yet but I've been with a couple girls though I have a boyfriend. I knew I liked her way before she came out to me and our other mutual best friend, also gay. After she came out, we both came out to her. (How ironic huh?) He used to date her and I liked her so much! I told her that even though I had a boyfriend (who knows I'm bi and supports me), I fantasized about her some of the times I would spend the night and hang out. I told her I wanted to kiss her and hold her hand (which I told my boyfriend and once again he was supportive), and she was just like "Your bi and I'm les, I want to have those experiences with my first girlfriend, not with just a friend I know I'll never date, plus we are just too close anyways."

It broke my heart but I knew it was the truth. We would most likely never date. Now I still kind of want to do things with her, but in the back of my head I still know how she feels about it. I told her again how I felt recently over Myspace and she told me back just to focus on my boyfriend and any of my other bi friends I had ( I have a lot ).

So yeah I know how it feels. And it sucks.

To think my boyfriend actually told me if I was to hook up with my best friend that he wouldn't have minded, in fact he would have wanted to be there (typical guy).

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